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Is It You Or Your Wand?

Did you know that everyone experiences electricity differently?  That some people tolerate it better, that some don’t feel it at all?  Did you know that women are generally more conductive than men, and that heavier people are more conductive than people who are slim? These are all true, and can affect your wand use if you are the top or the bottom partner.

As you use a wand, you’ll discover the differences in you or your partner.  And it can help your violet wand usage overall as you learn and experience how people are affected differently by it.

Just think about how some people enjoy different sensations and other people don’t like the same sensations.  Perhaps someone likes something ‘thuddy’ or someone else prefers ‘stingy’.  So wand users will find they prefer certain kinds of outputs that the wand is capable of and maybe not care for others.

So people already like or dislike certain types of sensations.  You’ll get to know what violet wand accessories produce which type of sensations as you try them on yourself or others and receive feedback. Violet wands are capable of producing an endless variety of sensations based upon their factors.

You will be able to produce different sensations based upon combinations of violet wand output, settings, techniques, accessories and equipment setup.  This makes it harder to find out if someone likes a violet wand used one way or another.  Give it time and try different things, changing setups, techniques, accessories, electrodes and settings.  Don’t think that just because you didn’t like a certain accessory the first time you tried it, that you don’t like violet wands!  Change it up, and try it again.

 

 People will experience a violet wand differently because people like or dislike different sensations.

 People will experience violet wand accessories, settings, techniques and setups differently because people like or dislike different things.

There is more, too.  While people are generally conductive, they conduct or resist electricity differently based upon their physical characteristics.  Drier skin is more electrically resistant than moist skin, so a person with drier skin may not conduct electricity through a body contact cable as well as someone else.  Body fat contains more water, so a person with more body fat is more conductive.  Generally women are more conductive than men, and men more resistant, but differences can be significant.

Someone who has drunk fluids shortly before playing will be more conductive.  For best conductivity, be fully hydrated with electrolytes and salts.  Dasani water (contains potassium), Gatorade, or even plain water.  Stay hydrated; sweating rids you of hydration, even though it makes your skin wet.  And remember, alcohol dehydrates, and you shouldn’t be combining it with electricity anyway.

So it can be frustrating if some of these differences are working against you.  For example, if you are a top and trying to hold  a body contact cable with your hand, and you have dry or rougher skin on your hand where you are gripping the cable contact.  This may not conduct as well due to your physical characteristics, and you may be feeling the spark from the cable yourself as it has to jump from the cable contact.  This can be a common occurrence for some people who are less conductive. There are several things you can do to mitigate this, increase your conductivity or accommodate your differences:

  • Exfoliate and moisturize.  This gets rid of dead or dry, resistant skin cells and boosts the moisture content. Or
  • Tuck it somewhere else.  You can also find that hair on parts of your body keeps you from making good contact with the probe, so find somewhere on your body where it can make good, firm, unblocked contact with your skin without anything in the way.
  • Hydrate
  • If your hands are sweaty, dry them.  It might seem counter-intuitive to say you need to be hydrated and your skin moist, but it shouldn’t be dripping wet.  If you sweat, salty water is an excellent conductor, and you will almost certainly feel the spark yourself instead of having your bottom feel it.
  • Too dry?  Moisturize.  Conductive gel that you would use for TENS units works the way its supposed to, use it for wands too!
  • Sweaty?  Baby powder will help dry it up.
  • If none of these work for you, and you can’t get good conductivity anywhere on your body, use Reverse technique instead.  The added bonus is that your hands will be completely free!  This is the preferred method for those few people who are generally too resistive to use a body contact cable consistently.

 

People will experience violet wand play and sensations differently, because resisitivity and conductivity differ from person to person.

Did you find a wand accessory that just isn’t performing the way you thought it would but it seems to work ok for someone else?  It could be you.  Naturally, people who are more resistive will experience less discharge.  People who are more conductive than others seem to ‘pull’ violet wand current, especially if they are more conductive than the partner they are trying to use it on.  Again, make sure your hands are dry and you don’t have an excess of metal on your body (sitting in a metal chair) that will keep current seeking you out.  Be sure you are wearing shoes, and take note if you are on concrete.  Electricity is always trying to find a way to run to ground, even violet wand current does this.  So you want to mentally track the current’s possible path to ground and be sure that you are not giving it a better path than the one you want it to travel to your partner.  For example, if you are a top and standing in bare feet on concrete, which holds moisture and is supported by metal rebar, and trying to do Indirect techniques, you’ll get a poor result as the VW charge is going to be heading through you to the rebar.  Put on shoes and be on carpet for best results with Indirect.

Conversely, you can give a better path to the discharge by using something like chains on your partner, or a mylar blanket below them.

If testing a violet wand accessory or wand, and you are experiencing unexpected results yourself as a top, give the current somewhere else to go besides you, so that your body doesn’t interfere with the expected results.  Tops are naturally going to receive a good bit of vw discharge during play, and your own conductivity plus your setup and surroundings will impact that. But you can minimize the discharge you receive as a top by building a path for discharge to travel that doesn’t include you.

 

People will experience violet wand play differently, because resisitivity and conductivity differ on a person from time to time, and from place to place on their same body.

Trying out a wand accessory for the first time?  Don’t try it on the back of your hand.  The back of your hand is some of the most resistive skin you have, plus an absence of conductive fat tissue.   Don’t try it on your palm, because that’s some of the thickest skin.  Skin is thinnest on our lips, which is why they are so sensitive, though you might not want to try a toy there first.  You want to get a true feel for what a wand accessory feels like.  Try it on your belly!  The abdomen has average thickness of skin and an average number of nerve receptors per mm, plus has a conductive fat layer, so it makes your belly exactly mid range as a part of your body so you can get the best idea of what an accessory or technique truly feels like.

You’re probably aware that there are some people who seem to be static-charged all the time.  The rest of us have to rub across a carpet and cross our fingers if we want to surprise someone with a static shock, but there are people who are constantly charged due to their bioelectromagnetism.  Some people have an electrical anomaly that means they can’t wear electric watches without breaking them, or they constantly kill their own electronics.   Some are so electrified they interfere with street lights. And there are people who have received high voltage accidentally, and can’t feel violet wand current at all.  Or they are overly sensitized to it and it hurts them horrifically.

The bottom line is that there are many factors that influence how violet wand play is experienced by someone using it, either top or bottom.  If you’re not getting the results you expect, take some of these factors into consideration and it may be possible to make adjustments to get the results you (and your partner) desire!

 

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